And Zvi's right, of course, that some writers do add the sex scenes on, but I don't want to be the judge of that...

That's absolutely true, and I feel that way about some fics that I have read, that the sex scene has no purpose and makes the overall story weaker. And if I were the beta-reader for that fic, I would certainly say so.

But podfic reader is pretty far from beta-reader, and unless it happened to be an author I had both types of relationship with, I would not ask for that kind of change.

I'm just waiting for the first Jerk/Bitch or Douchebag in J2 or SPN that I come across...

In the podfic I'm working on right now, the word faggot is used several times. But it's not tossed off casually, it's used in a very emotionally intense scene and as an expression of hate by a clearly evil character. I wasn't thrilled while recording with having to say that word out loud, but I also didn't feel like its use in the story was gratuitous, and it wasn't a dealbreaker for me the way that, honestly, the "PMS. That's what you get for working with women," scene would probably have been.

So context matters a lot to me when it comes to things like that. I can think of at least one word I would never say, though.